…it is, I swear. Commitment is such a strange word. Some of us are terrified of it. Some of us believe others are scared of it, or at least tell ourselves that. I keep seeing this myth perpetrated that people are attracted to polyamory because they are “scared of commitment,” which sounds absurd in a …
it’s okay to Commit in polyamorous relationships Read More »
Never again. I don’t want to drink poison, hoping it hurts the other person. I don’t need to donate space in my head to toxic narcissists. Or convince a person who doesn’t understand me that I am, in fact, the wonderful person that my friends and loved ones cherish. I don’t need to pretend I …
Ever met someone who was so sure life would be perfect- if you weren’t in it? Someone who believes you to be the cause of all their problems. Someone who tries to pretend you don’t exist. Someone who has convinced themselves that you aren’t real. ….but their troubles are their own. Their life is their …
to the person who believes life would be better if I went away Read More »
At the age Elizabeth became queen, I had just met my master. I did not know it at the time, though he claims he knew exactly what would soon unfold. Me? I stumbled into a whole mess- wonderful as the mess might have turned into- the way I usually lived my life. Of course, I’m grateful for this particular stumble.
In the aftermath of Game 3 of the Stanley Cup Finals, A Panthers player held a Golden Knights player back while Matthew Tkachuk punched him in the face. Skirmishes aside, it was a shitty thing to do. In any other circumstances, that’s assault. It wasn’t hitting or knocking into someone during play. The game was …
petty assault and the reality of “no consequences” Read More »
Conversation with Kitty and an undisclosed person who may or may not be entirely imaginary, but still… What do you mean by sensualist, Kitty? After all, we’re all sensualists. We all savor the senses. But I don’t necessarily mean that when I say sensualist. Throngs of men will say “beautiful!” and “sexy!” in response to a …
Vegas Golden Knights are killing it, and I’m excited because, well, I’ve never had a team before, not locally. Plus, I’m starting to get into hockey this past decade. So when a new team arose like a phoenix, burning a path behind it, well, cool! They’re even better now than before, when they were comprised …
Breathing, deep breaths What I have with my little ones though they’d hate to be called that now, but they always will be to me Is precious, rare More-so than some ordinary diamond I am their “ama” now We celebrated together, muted, perhaps, but sincere A beautiful memory of an evening I earned that Something …
Dear SAHP, Yes, raising a child is hard. Nobody is denying that. But for the love of all that is holy, please just understand how lucky you are. You will never come home to a babysitter telling you your child took their first steps. You will never have a caregiver be the one to tell …
staying with your children is a privilege and a luxury Read More »
A reminder of the quote from More Than Two, “Make sure there are no monsters under your bed before you do it, because if there are any weak points in your relationship if there is anything you’re not sure about, if there are any little fears or insecurities you have polyamory will find them it …
further thoughts on “More Than Two”: you’ll never find “all” the monsters Read More »