“Until it feels easy.” My kitten brain sighs, “Until WHAT feels easy?”** It’s nice to say, “Being single is fun and easy!”— and certainly I do think being single is underrated. …but it isn’t always easy. The 24/7, confident, hair whipping woman in the power suit, breastfeeding whilst commanding a conference call via her […]
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“It doesn’t count if it’s a girl.” The words ran through her mind like the silk sheets on her skin. On her fifteenth birthday, she’d snuck a bottle of rum from her parent’s alcohol cabinet. Of course her parents left the cabinet in easy reach. At barbecues, they even allowed her to add a
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I’ve said before I don’t believe in one twue ways. It’s more accurate to say I believe in many twue ways. The perfect Twue Way for You. I like to bake. One day, you ask me to bake you a cake. Just “a cake.” Oooookay. I mean, I’ll do it quite happily. But forgive me
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I learned many lessons from my family growing up. I learned lessons from my siblings, from my mentors, from my friends. The second most important lesson I received from my mother was this: Happiness is a choice. At the Las Vegas “Life is Beautiful” festival, the year it first began, I painted this sentiment on a
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I found a pretty solid “how to do vanilla romance.” I modified it every so slightly– and it worked for polyamorous relationships, too! So this is also my Polyamorous Manifesto. This guideline includes no reference to anything kinky; no swinging, spanking, anal sex– “But none of that is kinky!” you interrupt. To which I politely
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A conversation between myself and someone who doesn’t understand polyamory… “What’s your favorite ice cream?” “Uh, I guess cookies and cream. At least lately.” “Okay, so you only want cookies and cream from now on?” “Uh, no. What?” “If you really like cookies and cream, you should only want 🍪 and🍦.” “I’m sorry what? What
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I hear about people’s escapades after they put kids to bed, but how do they do it? My friend asks. I mean, isn’t it loud? Good question. For anyone curious how to make it work, for anyone who struggles with this and wonders who the ‘successful’ people do it— well, I don’t wonder anymore. These
Note: It’s possible that doms can experience a form of drop, but this is really about sub drop. I’ve read, time and time again, about sub drop. Which is great that we talk about it. But also— we kinda talk about it like it’s something we indulge in simply because we feel like it. “I
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Dear Valentine’s Day, First off, I apologize on behalf of the humanity who will inevitably poop all over you. Jealousy that nobody bought them pink chocolates or ruffled cards? Can’t celebrate a holiday without involving massive amounts of panic and stress? Oh, it doesn’t matter. No, you aren’t everyone’s cup of tea. Some prefer other holidays
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You’re a silly, stupid, spoiled bitch my critical inner voice whispers. What, getting ninety percent of what you want isn’t enough for you? My beauty whispers to me, Of course it’s enough. It’s enough, I’m enough, you’re enough. I should listen to her kindness, her unabashed love towards me. But I don’t want “enough.” I want more. I want
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