Our community is, indeed, varied and fascinating. I won’t deny that. Yet, just every so often, I find myself wishing for someone who scratches a particular itch. While I believe wholeheartedly that there is no one person who can do something for you– I do find there are certain kinks/kink providers that are scarce enough to practically be unique when one does find them.
I will do my best to not be mocking, but, okay, you’re warned. God, I am sorry, but I do not understand the fantasy BDSM life. Young dom(mes) sitting around waiting for a bevy of idealized slaves to fill their inboxes, or, better yet, writing dominantly(?) to someone who has given no indication that they …
**THIS LIST IS CONSTANTLY BEING UPDATED** These resources are geared towards those new to understanding healthy relationships. All- or most- are poly and kink friendly. But you don’t have to be kinky or poly to get value. If you read this material and think, yeah, I already know this? I may have additional resources for …
my top bdsm/poly resources for people new to [insert your kink/lifestyle here] Read More »
Welcome, gentle reader. “Always such warmth in your words.” Should my words not be your cup of tea today, feel free to move along. I understand my views are not for everyone. …but someone wrote this to me. They told me how much my words meant to them. I assured them theirs touched me, as …
Suffocating, feels like I can’t breathe Can’t speak The problem, of course, is that toxic positivity is POSITIVE She feigns concern for her children, “They should have heat when it’s cold.” The problem it isn’t that it’s cold. My own mother gently chided me when I complained, “Good thing you lost heat when you didn’t …
breathing through the weight of toxic positivity Read More »
She left marks upon me, as did he, as did she, as did each and every one. I wish to be one that leaves marks upon others, not scars. Oh, I have no shame in my scars! On the contraire, I swell with pride touching each one. My scars reflect my life, and I have …
be someone who leaves a mark on their life, not a scar Read More »
…or maybe less. Maybe you were some offhand, one night stand. Not that there was anything wrong with that. You both wanted a bit of release. You found it with each other that night. Or maybe you started out as friends that grew into “more,” (though I dislike that concept as it imagines that friends …
dear poly “couple,” remember that you started out as secondary, too Read More »
I show up, mid afternoon, with a bottle of strawberry margarita mix and a box of donuts. I don’t know all these girls. I don’t even know if they are all girls, aside from 1) the assumptions I’ve been conditioned with my whole life that says “This person ‘looks’ like a girl,” and 2) my …
one lazy afternoon with my girls, OR why we all need a ‘safe space’ Read More »
Fyi, this works in reverse for the “pretty” guys, the tall, handsome Chris Hemsworth look alike searching out their one, true, monogamous submissive love. Switch genders, or even sexes, as you like: Dear pretty, monogamous girl in search of her one true dominant, Remember high school? Maybe you were the pretty head cheerleader who never …
plight of the straight, female, mono submissive, part 1: dear pretty, mono girl Read More »
What if he loves her more? Then he fucking loves her more, and you either find that the love he has to offer you is enough, or it isn’t. If it is, you appreciate and reciprocate the shit out of that love, and you don’t compare how much love you’re getting. Its not halloween and the love isn’t you and your little brother’s candy haul. If it isn’t enough, you leave, and you don’t worry, because somebody out there is looking to share a giant pile of love with you.