Sometimes referred to as polyamory, sometimes as polyam (although, frankly, if you aren’t going to call it ‘poly,’ I say you might as well make the effort to say the whole word. It’s not that difficult.). Plus, “polyam” sounds like “poly ham” to me. Polyamory is often translated as “multiple loves.” It’s worth clarifying here […]
Not of a person, but of a whole philosophy. “Polyamory is an interesting strategy.” “Polyamory is for people who know life is unstable anyway.” Fuck that. It’s true that I know life is uncertain. Whatever I may have can disappear in an instant. But not them. My chosen family. The more freedom I give, the
broader form of jealousy, a Read More »
“Listen to my tone, not my words.” When I taught ESL (English as a Second Language), I can’t tell you how many times I said this phrase. I realized, soon after arriving and teaching myself how to do this whole “teacher” thing, that the first thing I had to teach wasn’t grammar or vocabulary. Many
Isn’t that a comforting thought? I’ve considered this. A floating thought I saw somewhere. I know -she- does not actually think I’m a bad person. If she did, she would not have done the things she did. The assumption in the meme is that she does so not to cover up her guilt, but because
#BelieveVictims Believe victims, they say. Unfortunately the perpetrator is often the first to claim victimhood. Whom does one believe then? I don’t know the answer. All I know is that I will always provide basic respect and kindness to any human being. I will not promise that I will believe you, nor take your side.
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She had the perfect plan. Narcissists do have a plan, you know. I want you to know that you are not crazy. When it feels like you’re being pulled along this insane journey. You are. She had a plan. They always have a plan. It wasn’t a very good plan. You might wonder, too, if
perfect plan laid out by your average narcissist, the Read More »
“Being nice hardly paid off for me. Should I quit being nice?” “Why does being the nice person never pay off?” “Does being nice get you anywhere?” I see a lot of these questions. Lots of folk are quick to jump on people who dare ask such questions. You shouldn’t be nice for a reason they
payoff of “being nice,” the Read More »
peace in stillness, it is not lonely to be alone when one is at peace with oneself i am more isolated surrounded by a sea of unfamiliar minds than with my own mind and body i cherish being alone is not something i desire much of but i can appreciate the profundity of quiet swirling
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What Family Boundaries Can Sound Like “Please do not lie to me more than once a day. Okay, how about twice a day? Fine, how about…oh, forget it.” “Please do not talk to me about your threesome fantasies involving my dad.” “Please do not throw my puppy across the room.” “Please do not tell me
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