“Show up wearing nothing but a coat. I’ll be ready and waiting to cook your favorite meal, snuggle and watch a movie together, wake up lazily with kisses and serve you breakfast in bed.” I had a date like that with a former lover. Spoiled silly for an entire weekend, with someone who barely knew …
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The allure of ignorance. Do you want to know? To have your eyes opened? It cannot be undone. It is a beautiful thing to see the truth, yet it can be painful. Suppose you spent a lifetime believing a lie, only to have that lie crumpled up and thrown away? Suppose, too, you sacrificed that …
I understand hesitancy in romance. Okay, I might jump into bed with near strangers- but I am slower to connect emotionally. I instinctively freeze whenever I meet someone new. Even when I first met my master. He wasn’t right for me; I had strong feelings about his partner choices; I was a total mess and …
She thought she needed a kind man. Gentle, loving, buys her roses, champagnes, and diamonds. She’d be the envy of all her acquaintances, friends, and colleagues. She believed deeply in this fairytale. She believed herself to be a lost princess in search of Prince Charming. “Hello,” he said to her. “Hello,” she said back. With …
I am not a Domme. I should clarify this first and foremost. As a submissive, the last thing I want -generally- is the responsibility of taking control of the scene. At the same time, I am curious about the idea. As, I’m sure, are many submissive types. Of course it’s rather nerve wracking to entertain …
Questions When Beginning A Relationship (Romantic) A Living Document Love Languages: What does love mean to you? Look like? How do you give and receive romantic love? References: What are your “people” like? Your closest friends? Chosen family? Who might I run into at munches? Tell me about them. What would they say about you? Can I …
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It’s a question I see come up now and again. Asexuals can absolutely be polyamorous, as romantic love does not have to be defined by sex. …but can aromantics be part of a ROMANTIC relationship structure, many ask? Well, yes and no. It depends on how you view romance. Is romance only flowers and Valentine’s …
There’s a lot of noise and confusion as you come into your own, as a queer person. For context, I have at least one child who is going through an active period of questioning and evolving her sexuality. At twelve, she’s already dealing with her own “noise.” Is she confused? Not really. Not anymore than …
… can be exhausting. Justifying. Explaining. Listening to second hand lies. Of what or who I am, according to those who haven’t bothered to ask me. I am not queer enough. I am not attracted to enough bodies (why can’t you be pansexual?). Not loving enough, etc. etc. I live with a man, I play …
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Fire soothed her nerves, especially in moments such as these. Dancing gold, red, yellow, blue. She touched the flame with her fingertip, briefly. She’d never been comfortable with material things, but fire transcended the physical world. Something about it felt almost spiritual. She thought back to the other night, The flames traced a pattern on …